charlene mess , 48 , was arrested on monday after her husband of 30 years , 52-year-old douglas mess , was found killed at their farm in attica , new york .
state police troopers went to the home at 1229 exchange street road after the couple 's son , douglas mess , jr. , 29 , reported that his father was missing .
the younger mess said that his dad had failed to show up to work on monday morning .